How to be a Downton lady

Monday, December 3rd, 2012

1.  Domestic staff are hard to find so treat them with respect, but keep the relationship between employee and employer clear.  Your nanny or au pair, for instance, may live as part of the family, but they work for you, so give them a clear idea of what you expect from them.

2.  Ladies can wear hats indoors until 6pm.  Unlike men who have to remove them when indoors (at all times), a woman’s hat is part of the outfit and not an accessory.

3. Ladies never leave the dining table during a meal as it means the gentlemen have to rise from their seats, which disrupts everybody, so make sure you go to the loo before you go to the dining room!

4. When visiting your friends’ estates, it is good form to leave a tip for the maid who cleans your bedroom.  £5 per day should suffice, or ask your host how much you should leave.

5. Many dinners at Downton are White Tie affairs, although in recent times Black Tie has been creeping in.  When White Tie is the order of the evening, long gloves and jewels should be worn.

6. The hallmark of a true gentleman is that he knows how to tie a bow tie, so ladies, make sure your sons start to learn early!

7. After dinner the ladies repair to the drawing room, so when your hostess says something like “ladies, shall we?” don”t linger at dining table, even if you are having the most fascinating conversation.

8. Some country houses can be a little chilly, so some warm underwear オンライン カジノ can make the evenings more comfortable!

9. When invited with your husband to go shooting, make sure you take some warm country clothes and suitable boots if you are to join the gentlemen for lunch.

10. “How do you do” is still the correct greeting when meeting someone new.  This is a not a question, so the answer is also “How do you do”.

11. Think about the clothes you will need for a weekend away so that you don”t take too many suitcases.  You should not look as though you are coming to stay for a month!

12. Today, when you are asked to stay for a country weekend your hostess says, “we dress”, it means that they wear Black Tie for dinner.  This means you will need to ask your maid to pack at least two evening dresses. It is also as well to take something smart to wear on Sunday if you are taken to church.

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2 responses to “How to be a Downton lady”

  1. Wendy Cameron says:

    Hi Diana, Would you please clarify how a lady should sit at the dinner table. I was brought up to sit on the edge of my chair whilst dining, my back NOT touching the back of the chair. It seems that this is not the case these days. Does this rule apply throughout the whole meal?
    Many Thanks


    • William Hanson says:

      Dear Wendy
      Absolutely right! Back not touching the back of the chair, hands in lap when not eating. Hope this helps! Diana.

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